It’s funny how with some people we just seem to click and yet others we meet, pass the time of day and then don’t make any effort to stay in touch. As today is national best friend day and I am sat in my living room watching Kenan and Kel, after having spent another fabulous day with my bestie, I decided it would be fitting to write a post about the joy of friendship.
“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school, but if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”
– Muhammad Ali
A lot of people seem to struggle with the concept of friendship that I share with my bestie as we often get asked if we’re a couple. I used to get very frustrated and irritated by this and would feel anxious about displaying any kind of affection in public, but on reflection, I think it just proves how very close and in tune with each other we are. It’s surprising really because I am a 27-year-old female who lives with her head in the clouds and spends her spare time watching Disney films, eating chocolate and partaking in creative hobbies, whilst my best friend is a practical, down to earth man nearly twice my age who has a lovely family, enjoys sci-fi movies, healthy snacks and cultivating his allotment. Of course, we do have some shared interests and similarities such as a love of the outdoors, being introverted HSPs and a fascination of people and the world around us, otherwise we probably wouldn’t be in the position we are blessed with today.
The main thing which has brought us together though is music… just another reason I am so grateful to have it in my life! Who’d have thought that by simply noticing a Steel Pan band performing in the town centre one day (a town which I don’t usually go to by the way) that I would end up meeting the best friend I have ever had and forming what I hope will be a life-long bond? It may have taken us a while to get to know each other properly and reach the point we’re at now, where we just know what the other is thinking or feeling without having to ask, but they do say all good things take time!
One thing I am certain of is that I will never take my bestie or our friendship for granted, because there is no-one else on Earth who is as thoughtful, caring, sensitive to my needs or who I trust so implicitly. I am not an easy person to get to know, or indeed get along with at times, as my highly sensitive and introverted nature can sometimes cause me to come across as rude or anti-social. My bestie, however, understands this and continues to stand by me even in my darkest moments. He has already helped me through so many challenging circumstances and without his kindness and encouragement, I don’t know where I would be today. He is there day and night without hesitation, to offer support and guidance and generally keep me going whenever I feel like giving up. He accepts me exactly as I am, gives me confidence when I am self-critical, hope when I despair, reassurance when I doubt and the best hugs when I am down. 😊
There really are not enough words in the English language to describe how privileged I feel to have such an amazing best friend. The relationship we have built is one of the most precious gifts I have ever received. I hope that those of you reading this post may be as fortunate in finding a special person, whether it be a friend, partner, colleague or family member who brings joy to your life as it really does give you the strength to continue fighting through even the toughest of battles. Perhaps the most important lesson I have learnt though is that friendship can come in all shapes and sizes. Others may not always understand your relationship and jump to inappropriate conclusions, particularly if your friend is of the opposite gender. However I firmly believe that if your friendship is sincere and true, you will overcome any obstacle that is thrown in your path together and your relationship will continue to flourish, even in the face of adversity.
Happy Best Friend Day to one and all!